We all have the capability of making choices in our lives and in our careers. However, as my dad once told me when I was grappling with a decision to take a job or not, You have to put food on the table. Many, if not most times, our work decisions are driven by our needs, and so they dont always feel like choices. Consider, though, if the reason you are working is to provide a better life for you and your family, there is reason for you to feel proud. You can choose to make the best of it by selecting good childcare, deciding how to best spend your free time and letting go of the things that dont matter as much. The most important thing to remember is something one of my mentors once told me: Dont measure your life or your life choices with someone elses yardstick.
Human Like Hillary
Next, think about Hillary Clinton. She was named, for the 17th time, the worlds most admired woman in the Dec. 31, 2012 Gallup Poll. Hillary, unlike most of us, has had to live her career in the public eye. Some of you will say, Well, she chose that. And you would be correct. Even so, the whole world has witnessed her embarrassment and her mistakes, and she is still most admired. What is it about her? Being human and having the ability to express warmth, enthusiasm, anger and remorse to those you work and live with is a very important quality to practice and learn. Recently, Hillary displayed all of those traits when she addressed the congressional committee investigating the U.S. Consulate deaths in Libya. Please watch the video on C-SPAN. You will note that Hillary was confident and warm at the same time. She admitted her oversight, and she said (paraphrased), Now lets get on with it! People will forget a situation and forget the circumstances of a mistake, but they will always remember your warmth and humanity.
A lot of the time, becoming promoted within an organization to a higher level or a position with greater salary and more responsibility is about being at the right place at the right time and being prepared. If it is a career you desire versus only income to fulfill your needs, your focus and your priorities may need to change slightly. Think about people you admire who have the job that you aspire to. Then do a Google search to learn about their career path and the skills they possess. Is it degrees or published works or companies they have managed? Whatever it is, they were on a journey to where they are now, and they are where they are now because they were available and known at the time. How can you help yourself with this?