The Workplace is a Fine Line Between the “Chain of Command” and Control



Thirdly, is your willingness to walk away from the situation.

The confidence to walk away from a bad situation can only come when self-assurance and self-love has been attained. When you’re willing to let go and surrender all for the sake of your well being you know the playing field has been neutralized. When you have clearly defined your boundaries, and understand that guilt is no longer your weakness, your ability to walk away from a situation that no longer serves you becomes your saving grace.   In this willingness to walk away there is no game-playing or pride.

It is a very high level of confidence and knowing that the rules have been established and the ground work has already been laid out.  When the rules are agreed and understood, passive and controlling behaviors in the relationship become neutralized and the playing field is balanced.  Neither party has an advantage over the other, which allows respect, growth, and grace.

So whether you are the passive, nurturing, gentle one in a relationship or the controlling hero with all the answers, set the ground rules up, define your own boundaries of what is acceptable to you. Make sure to discuss how guilt will or will not be used as a tool to manipulate the relationship, and clearly communicate how each of you will know when and under what conditions it is understood that walking away from the relationship is warranted.

Let others raise their children as they see fit, and remember there are many different ways to fold towels…all of which are “proper”. By the way, my advice to the young lady in my office, well, let’s just say, she re-evaluated her own self-worth and found someone willing to pay her much more for her thinking.

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Josi Gago
Josi Gago…Traveling Her Yellow Brick Road was born in Coral Gables, Florida to Cuban parents. Living in Haiti as a child was one of her most memorable experiences. Returning to Florida as a teenager, she married and had 4 children. During her 25-year “corporate grind’ in banking she found herself lost when her position was eliminated and she divorced after 23 years. She learned to make margaritas out of lemons, worked on herself teaching yoga/meditation, and owning a juice bar. She also learned that toxic relationships slowly kill your spirit and she found her voice. Today, she is back in corporate banking but this time on her terms. She lives in Weston, Florida near her three grown sons and is preparing her youngest daughter to begin college next year.