Allowing Kids to “Bee” the Best They Can


Lopsided Competition


In my day, or at least in New York City, where I had grown up, teachers would’ve sent projects back home if there was any indication that the parents had done it.

So what are we teaching students when we can’t even trust them to make their own art? What kind of lopsided competition is this when their learning development is circumvented by the competition between parents?

I gave our warped bee back and said, “No, I’m not going to do it. This is my little girl’s work and I want it to be properly displayed with the rest of the projects.”

The teacher looked ill at the thought, but I ignored it. I scanned the exhibit and found a prominent place for my daughter’s little bee.

As I walked out the classroom, I found a parent who had been in the room earlier that day. He had just returned from Michaels with a bag of art supplies to rework his daughter’s project into a majestic mosquito while she played in the schoolyard.

Buzzing With Excitement

Apparently, the current generation of parents doesn’t want to have their children deal with disappointment. Because they’re so protective, their children won’t realize until it’s too late that in this dog-eat-dog world and things won’t always go their way. We’re unrealistically educating our children to believe that they can get what they want when they want it, and if they don’t, that their parents—or someone else—will make sure they do.

I for one will continue raising my kids the old-school way. I want them to learn now that life isn’t always easy. It’s competitive, sometimes not kind and can be full of disappointment.

They need to find their own way and be independent. I want them to work hard for something they truly want, but most of all, I want them to be good people. (Now, if I could just get my little brats to clean up their room, I will have truly succeeded.)




Hispanic comedian Kiki Melendez Kiki Melendez and her daughters Alessandra and Isabella Berry


People need to stop coddling their children. Instead, they need to prepare them for the real world, as ugly as it can be. Those children can then become busy, productive bees, buzzing with excitement at their own accomplishments.

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